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Can a short love poem help you get ahead in the world of modern dating?

 March 31, 2017
Elizabeth in In Trend
Did you know that April is National Poetry Month? Think that poetry is a dead art-form, so who cares? Think again—because penning a short love poem might just give you the upper hand in the brutal battlefield that is the modern dating landscape…

April is National Poetry Month, an event inaugurated in 1996 by the Academy of American Poets which has since grown into a hugely successful literary celebration. You can discover 30 more ways to celebrate here at poets.org, a fabulous resource for any budding writers, poet enthusiasts or teachers looking for class planning ideas.

But we’re not here to talk primarily about poetry (y’see what we did there), but how in fact a short love poem could completely change your dating game. Because let’s be honest, dating innovations are always the zeitgeist, whether it’s 2017 or 1817. But precisely how can a little poetry get you a few more successful matches?

Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?

Love heart book


  • People are tired of modern dating

Like, exhausted. No matter your gender or sexual preference, dating in 2017 is a struggle that can be summed up in these three modern dating phenomenon: ghosting, benching and zombie-ing. Sounds more like the description of a horror film, right? Smartphones and apps like Tinder, OkCupid and Bumble have swiped away all of the mystery, the hard (yet rewarding) graft and the romance of finding a significant other. And people are sick of it. So sick in fact, that ‘old fashioned’ dating methods are coming back into trend. Your neighbor’s mom knows someone who would be just perfect for you? Send them over. Hanging around the grocery store ‘meal-for-one’ section waiting to accidentally touch hands with another lonesome stranger? We’re not above it.

For this reason, old-school romantic gestures are considered a pretty big deal. It shows that you actually put in some effort, and aren’t just looking for the next notch on your bedpost. This is where a short love poem could completely transform your game. Obviously, this is not going to work with everyone. It could quite easily be considered creepy if, for instance, you rush in with a poem about marriage after a simple ‘hello’ on Tinder. Successful love poetry is all down to timing…

Man writing poetry in cafe

  • Poetry makes people feel things

There’s a reason artists have been getting laid for centuries. Creativity is sexy, people. Lyrics in music are essentially poems, and don’t tell us that you haven’t all had a little sob at Adele at one point or another. So, if you’re in the dating game to genuinely make a real connection, then writing a short love poem could be your ticket to a long and lasting relationship. If this is the case, it’s best to wait until you’ve had a few dates with your potential future partner and communication has moved off whatever app you used to find each other in the first place. To go one step further, hand write the little love verse on some quality paper and you’ll have the other person swooning.


  • Consider your audience

You might be reading this and assuming that only women will appreciate some thoughtful love poetry, but you’d be wrong! Both sexes respond equally to someone putting in the effort to show that they care, but it’s important to consider tone of voice. If the object of your attentions enjoys a good belly laugh or has a sarcastic sense of humor, a short funny poem would be best to capture their attention. If you’re at a steamy, tension-filled stage of your budding relationship, a short erotic poem might just do the trick.

Love poetry


  • To quote or to be original?

Now, what some of you might be thinking is ‘well this is all well and good, but I can’t write for toffee!’, but that’s okay. There are pros and cons to writing an original love poem or quoting someone else. For one, if you can hardly string together an order at McDonald’s, then you’re probably better off quoting one of the greats. However, if you think you have a way with words, penning your own short love poem would really go the extra mile to show that you care. Not sure where to start? First off, don’t worry too much about rhyming—poetry has moved on a great deal and you’re no longer restricted by rigid rules. Think instead about rhythm, the way that your words sound aloud and how they make you feel. If in doubt, there’s even a Wikipedia page on how to write a love poem.  If you want to quote a classic love poem, try the Poetry Foundation. Just don’t forget to mention the original author! Pretending you wrote a classic Shakespeare sonnet is only going to bite you in the ass in the long run, trust us. Still feeling lost? Well, this is the 21st century after all—why not check out the videos about poetry on TED for some inspiration? Or just, you know, share one on WhatsApp with your new bae…


If you feel inspired by National Poetry Month, why not buy some books on poetry? You can find anthologies of short poems which are brilliant for small journeys, or bathroom reading material!